MUSINGS
Why Follow Me?
I know that F4F is a pretty big part of online culture now, but I also wish people were a little more reserved with their following list. I don't always follow someone to be followed back. Usually I just like their content and, if they like my content, that's all good and great. It's when we're clearly on entirely different pages that I get confused. I am not angry or annoyed, I just don't get it. Why follow someone who doesn't post what you want to see? Do the numbers matter that much? We don't talk so ????? I wish I could beam the concept into their heads. "You don't have to follow me back." I get weirded out and it makes me act like a fool from time to time, too. Maybe that's what they're sticking around for hahaha.It's one of the major drawbacks of Neocities and Nekoweb, in my humble opinion. The social features create this push and pull reaction with follows and links. I really don't like it. I don't want people to link me because I'm linking them. Moot culture IS annoying because it's often so parasocial that there is this sense of entitlement. "I didn't know my moots were like that!" Yeah, man, you didn't know them at all. That is why. They mistake it for friendship. If I don't know your favorite color, I do not consider you a friend. Maybe I can consider them an acquaintance at best if I care on a slightly more personal level, but that's sorta rare and often my own sin of parasocialization.
In an ideal world, no one would follow me out of obligation. We could exist in the same sphere while having complex lives and interests of our own that don't need to hinge on stupid little numbers. In that way, I miss when the internet felt smaller because it was a nearly impossible task to funnel most people online into a couple spaces. They've mastered the are of doing so via Twitter clones, though, and it's such a damningly successful format that you just can NOT catch a break wherever you go. Follow, repost, like, scroll, repeat. Keywords, algorithm, boosted, for you, recommendations. All I want is a quiet place at the edge of the internet where I can escape all that noise and push. I don't want to be the product. I don't want to be punished for not playing along with this stupid game.